In many a household this subject is debated, well it is where I am from at least. We received a wedding invitation through the post last week and it had a small insert with a little poem regarding the bride and grooms opinion on Wedding Gifts:
Your wedding gift to us on this special day,
Is having you there, it’ll make our day…
Kettles and Toasters we have a few
And wondered if you’d see it from our point of view…
With wedding gifts we know it is hard to please
We would like to put your mind at ease
So our suggestion to you,
Our preferred gift is a pound or two.
After having read this, I felt quite appalled that a couple who had invited me to their wedding firstly expected a gift and secondly were basically telling me that I had to give them money. I find this most disrespectful, because who’s right is it to tell me what I should gift them?!
Obviously, it is traditional to give the bride and a groom a wedding gift to set them up for their lives together, just like it is tradition to give a waiter a tip. However, I would draw the line at ‘no boxed gifts please’.
Even if I had wanted to give them a gift (and here I wasn’t thinking of a toaster, or a vase) I was thinking more along the lines of department store vouchers, as they are slightly less impersonal than money or I may have decided upon a personalised wedding gift of champagne or personalised wine perhaps, or even an engraved photo frame gift for them to put their wedding photos into. Now I am completely put off the idea of giving them a gift and giving them money is out of the question. Am I being too harsh?!
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